Quarantine + Chill: How to date while socially distancing yourself

Our normal interactions with the outside world can be canceled, but one thing certainly isn’t: dating. As with everything in life, all we have to do is adapt, and approaching the world of romance is no different. And while the instant gratification has been provided to us with a quick swipe, it’s a great time to hit pause and focus on the courtship display. Here are some ways to cope with self-isolation and use it for a successful date when it’s all over {aka – a guide to quarantine + chill}.

Play the long game

While we don’t know how long self-isolation will last, this is a great opportunity to practice some real, raw intimacy. Whether you have someone you just started seeing or are going through a storm knowing that a date isn’t possible right now, you can actually get to know someone. The feather can be positive, especially when used with the right intention.

Ask your boy how he’s holding up and what the weather is for. Start controlling them by their responses. Maybe a constant complaint isn’t good for your sanity – luckily you found out now rather than after making the trip to Brooklyn.

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Getting to know someone through an app, then texting, then over the phone and working up to FaceTime can be a very exciting journey, especially if you use it to uplift each other in difficult times like these. Finding out who is a support person now can be very revealing about what a relationship will look like in the future.

Use Virtual Meetups to Meet Someone

Because companies have to adapt quick, the virtual world is exploding like crazy. This means Zoom courses galore. The great thing about Zoom is that it’s like FaceTime with a bunch of new people, which means you can be social while staying aloof. There are plenty of local influencers and businesses out there that host virtual happy hours which can be a great and organic way to meet a cutie.

Starting a conversation with people in a group can also relieve social anxiety. Other than that, if the gym was your local hotspot for dating, join a virtual class and see if you can work out. and Flirting. The opportunities didn’t go anywhere, they just changed outfits.

Try one-on-one FaceTime dates

Of course, dates are limited, but let’s say after wooing your beau you’re good to go out. Dress your best and use FaceTime to gauge chemistry. Prepare a meal together, have a few drinks, and see if that leads anywhere.

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You can even join Netflix Party and watch a movie together. Since in-person interactions are interrupted, you can schedule a date as you wish, check in and see where you’re comfortable, and not let a haze of temptation cloud your judgment.

Red flags can be super visible, as can white flags. Clarity is your friend in the midst of the inevitable loneliness of isolation. Focus on the gift of being able to take some distance.

Practice limits

For many of us, the first thing to do when dating someone new is our personal grooming routine. We totally adapt to another person’s way of life, trying to fit in because we want to see them. Now, however, we have the ability to slow down our body roll and put ourselves first. Make a list of your non-negotiable items and stick to them.

Build a dating routine around one that works for you – see who fits in, who respects her, and who falls by the wayside. Take the time to do things you’ve always wanted to do, then share them with your love and strike up a good conversation.

It’s an epic time for some indie romance, a time when you and the cutie on the other end of the phone can thrive. And once you’re out of quarantine, a healthy system is already in place to keep the sparks flying – that’s a win!

Humans are inherently social and we can adapt to them as we should any other obstacle. Stay positive and breathe!


Written by: Shawn Engel

Shawn Engel is an eclectic wizard and energy expert. As a spiritual mentor, entrepreneur and tarot reader, it is her life purpose to help others with the strength of her intuition and her ability to attract open doors. She primarily works with entrepreneurs to help them with their businesses, but she continues to work as a life coach, helping women find their spirituality and build a solid foundation on which to build gratitude and abundance. Together, she changes her clients’ routines to realize what success really means to them! She has worked with thousands of women online doing tarot readings, leading spell and manifestation classes, teaching rituals, and providing business strategies and mindset work. She has been featured in several spiritual publications including Spirit Guides magazine and Sabat magazine.

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