“Why Dating is Miserable” by Single Woman Called “Rude” and “Cheap” by Man Who Became MIA
A single woman has been branded “rude” and “cheap” for not offering to pay for dinner after facing her date to have her ghosted.
Nik, from the United States, was matched with a man named “Josh” on a dating site before the couple first met at a restaurant where they “absolutely hit it off.”
Watch the video above as Nik explains how she was ghost
But after the duo planned to meet again, Nik noticed that he “was sort of completely gone” a few days later.
In a series of text messages shared through her TikTok Video, the woman claimed she was slammed by the man after politely pointing out that he missed their second date.
The heated conversation began after the couple spent six hours together on their first date.
âHe made a reservation for a restaurant he chose. We met there. We had dinner. Then we left. We walked around the small town where we were. I ended up buying ice cream, which I paid for, âshe said.
Nik said the couple decided to go for drinks at another restaurant because they wanted to “keep talking”.
After the date, Nik claimed the man texted him to say he wanted to see her again, so they scheduled a second date after he returned from his work trip.
However, she has not heard from him again.
âHe’s going MIA, which I understood to some extent because he was on a work trip, but he wasn’t communicating with me at all,â she explained.
She decided to send him another text asking if he was still interested in seeing her, he never replied.
“I never expected to hear from him again,” she said.
Half apologies ***
But on Christmas Day, she got a text from Josh saying he was “sorry for the incredibly late response.”
“I don’t want you to think that I was ghosting you or that I didn’t have a great time with you.” How was your Christmas ?! âhe wrote.
After he came back to her with a “half-*** apology,” she replied bluntly, “Are we just going to pretend you haven’t completely gone when we were supposed to see each other?”
“I understand. Life is busy, but you could quite have at least just communicated with me instead of leaving me in the dark.
A few hours later, he returned with an “excuse” as to why he had disappeared.
âYou apologized for going to the bathroom when the check came in for dinner, then you drink too and I hate when girls do that,â he wrote.
“It’s unusually rude and cheap, and really disrespectful and I felt like you didn’t really care despite how I felt about you.”
Honestly, he’s absolutely ridiculous
Nik said she never intended to avoid paying the bill when she went to the bathroom after finishing her meal.
âPersonally, I think it’s very telling of who you are that this is how you see me when it’s really unintentional,â she replied via text.
“I really wish you’d told me about it sooner if this was a problem so I could set the record straight, but unfortunately we ended up here.” “
Josh then accused her of choosing the restaurant, ordering what she liked, and never offering to pay for it.
âI know this is probably ridiculous for you, but one of the traits I look for in a woman is that she innately feels the need to pay for what she ordered (or at least offers) without guess I’ll cover it, ‘he wrote.
“Don’t pretend you haven’t watched me pay for your drinkâ¦ it’s literally 10 dollars and it doesn’t mean anything to me, but you rejected any respect in yourself for it after doing the same at the having dinner.
“Just because I have a f ** king trust fund doesn’t mean I like to use it to cover other girls’ drinks, it’s so rude.”
Clearly confused, Nik explained in the video that her date actually chose the restaurant because she didn’t know the city – and she had no idea he had a trust fund.
“Of course I ordered what I liked, what am I going to do?” Order something I don’t like? she said.
“Honestly, he’s absolutely ridiculous … And that’s why dating is miserable.”